Future Hot Dads of America is Back!

We're Back Baby! 

    My name is Jordan Holiman, a friend and fellow T-bird of the blog's founder Riley Beck, who was excited about the idea of keeping the blog running.  I'm also excited to say that my pal Dewey Leavitt will be onboard as we create some really fun content over the next several months. 

     If you have followed Future Hot Dads of America before, you probably know that much of our focus is on men's style, advice with women, chivalry, etc.  Simply put, FHDA is about the pursuits of a gentleman.  Of course we plan to stay with these topics, but we also plan to introduce a bit of fun into the mix.  After all, why shouldn't a gentleman have some fun.

     Make sure you keep an eye on our Instagram feed @Futurehotdadsofamerica.  This is where we will post all of our updates for new posts, photos, videos.. you know the drill.

How to Flirt with the Perfect Smize

Now that you have all read my last blog on how to meet more women, lets go over what you do once you have met them.

This is very serious because if you fail then you may fall into the dark labyrinth known as the friend zone.

Staying out of the friend zone starts at the very beginning. You want her to feel comfortable around you, but if you don't play the game at least a little bit she will only view you as a friend.

So to play the game, you must properly flirt. This is very dangerous because if done wrong, you may seem extremely creepy. Also, everyone has a different way of flirting. Don't ever change your personality when flirting. Be yourself still!

Even though every girl will be different and it's always a different game to be played, here are just a few tips on how to flirt.

Practice

Yes, practice flirting. Flirt with everyone and see what comes off as creepy and normal and you can get the hint. If something is creepy, then simply don't do it! Through practice, you will gain experience and

Eye Contact

The eyes will just about always speak more than the mouth while flirting. I am not saying that you look straight at her eyes the entire time without breaking eye contact! That is just weird and a little intimidating. Just make sure that you simply give each other that occasional look and then once you have good eye contact, then just give her a little smile. She won't be able to resist smiling back.

Then for the secret weapon. This is seriously lethal, so use with caution! The smize! Beyonce is Queen of the Smize! This will break hearts everywhere is you can learn how to properly use. For those of you who don't know what a smize is, it's smiling with your eyes. To do so, simply smile, then lower your mouth to normal position while leaving your eyes in the same position. This may take some practice, but girls won't look at you the same when you have a solid smize.

Listen and Participate

Girls are smart, that means you have to be to. They will see right through you if you are not listening. Don't let your mind wander and go somewhere else. Be involved in the conversation. Keeping conversation is one of the best forms of flirting.

All you #FutureHotDadsOfAmerica have been trained! Now go out and apply what you have learned!

How to meet women

You are out and about with some of your best buds and suddenly this girl catches your eye. Immediately you are smitten, and your heart sings majestically to you letting you know that you just must talk to her. You begin to walk over, but then what?? What comes next? How do I get this girl to talk to me? Here's the guide to introducing yourself.

First of all. Once you see the girl do not overthink it. React within three seconds and just go for it. She'll think you're soft if it takes you all night and she'll lose interest. It is the worst to be thinking of how to approach a girl and then have her leave, or another man who is not a Future Hot Dad Of America beats you and she is bored the rest of the night. DO NOT THINK ABOUT IT!! Train yourself to just go for it the second you see her. 

Now do not approach a girl from behind. It is creepy and the last thing you want is for her first thought to be, this guy is a creep. Do not EVER approach her from behind and then poke her in her sides!!! This is the weirdest thing anyone could ever do, SO DON'T! SERIOUSLY!! Some guys think this is flirty, but DON'T!

Also do not approach straight on, this can be too forward.

Simply approach the girl at an angle. She'll see you coming, but it won't be to forward, but just natural. This natural approach is exactly what you want. This will lead into a smooth conversation and it won't send off any alerts in her head. 

After you have naturally approached her, then comes the hard part.. Talking to her. 

Pickup lines seldom work. It is hard for something so cheesy to lead to anything real. It provides a quick laugh, but that's about all it provides. 

Start a normal conversation. This can seriously be about anything. Make sure to stay up to date on current events and make the conversation intriguing. Let the girl give honest and real feedback and then the conversation will carry itself. 

So now you have started talking to the girl. You're doing great! But now we do not want to get put in the friend zone! The key to staying out of this terrible labyrinth is successful flirting. When you are flirty, she will automatically think of you as something more than just a friend. 

So make sure to read the next post about how to properly flirt. 

9 Tips for the Perfect First Date

Having a great first date is crucial in courting. There are a lot of little things that go into executing that perfect first date that will leave a girl wishing for a second. So here are 9 simple tips to executing a perfect first date.

1. Actually ask the girl out!

You may call the girl, or ask them out in person. Only that!! No texts, snapchats, Facebook messages, or any other social media medium of asking the girl out! It simply won't cut it.

Asking a girl out in person is scary, however, it is time to get over the nerves and do it. If you only feel comfortable talking to the girl over texts, how will that change on the date? Show her the respect she deserves and ask her out in person!

2. Plan the date!!

Girls do not like to be picked up and asked, "What do you want to do?" That is a HUGE turnoff and is not acceptable! Make sure that you have an actual plan and even a plan b in case your first plan does not go as expected.

3. Let the girl know what to wear

Personally I like to keep the plan a secret. It makes it fun for myself, and I like to see how the girl reacts to surprises and not knowing what is going to happen. However, girls want to know what to wear. They do not want to show up wearing something that doesn't fit the environment. Just the other day a friend was telling me about a date that she went on and didn't know the plan. She answered the door in a dress and light coat...they built a snowman!! This man failed to warn the girl on what to wear, and in turn did not get a second date.

So for example, if you are going ice skating, let them know to wear warm clothes, and probably high socks because of the skates. However, you do not have to tell them specifically that you are going ice skating, just make sure that they are prepared for ice skating;)

4. Pay

As a college student, "going dutch," is music to my ears! For those of you who do not know what that means, it means that you both pay your way. However when you ask a girl out, you are responsible to pay!

5. Be yourself

Relationships don't always work out, and that is fine. We should never change who we are so we can hope to have a chance with a girl. Being someone different will always come back to bite you. Imagine how it would be if a girl fell for you while you were saying that you really liked things that in actuality you despised. This builds a fake foundation and as a result there will be nothing to build upon in the future.

6. Be confident

The girl said yes to the date, do not act like she doesn't want to be there. I understand that at times it is difficult to have confidence. Listen to your pump up jam as you go to pick her up and keep those positive, confident vibes!

For me, I will be super confident the entire time leading up to the date. Then just as I knock on the door and start waiting, the stress comes! Waiting for her to come to the door is agonizing. "What if she forgot? What if I'm at the wrong apartment? What if she is hiding? What if this is just a joke and this is a guys apartment?" It's stressful and terrifying, however, none of that is important because life will go on! Even if one of those unlikely events are true, then just laugh it off and don't let that bring you down. Remain confident!

7. Think of time

Give enough time so that you can get to know each other, but not so long that you are both bored before the first date ends. There are a lot of variables that go into timing on first dates. Time may change depending on whether it's a group date or the activity that you are doing. Generally do not ever plan a first date longer than three hours!! That is super long and consumes a lot of time. Leave that to a second date. Generally a first date should be between one and two hours.

8. Walk her to the door, and don't kiss

This is the make or break moment to a second date!! Doorstep moments may be extremely awkward but they leave the lasting impression of the date. Attempting to kiss a girl after one date can spoil everything, so even if the date went perfect and better than any other first date, do not attempt to kiss her! You want the girl to want that kiss and that only comes from more dates.

This is where we must muster up the most confidence. Be natural and don't let the walk be awkward in the slightest. We must keep up conversation and leave the girl wanting to see us again. Look at her in the way that she thinks of a kiss, but don't let her think that you are going to try. Give her a hug, not how you will hug your sister or a bro, and not a creepy hug that lasts too long or involves a weird back pat, but just a nice affectionate hug. Then you walk away.

9. Follow up

Advice to all girls: If you enjoy a date, wait long enough for the man to drive home safe and right as he can think about the date, send him a little text. I promise this will bring a smile to his face! Throw the male population a bone.

Now men, if you felt the connection, ask her out again.

Where Do Future Hot Dads of America Shop?

Everyone wants great style, but it may be very hard to find a store that will provide you with that style. As Future Hot Dads of America, we understand the benefit to a bargain. This is because one day we will need to continue our style as Current Hot Dads.

So lets take a look at a few stores that don't break the bank, but their clothes lets the world know that you are a Future Hot Dad of America.

Forever 21

http://www.forever21.com

H&M

http://www.hm.com/us/

Ross Dress For Less

http://www.rossstores.com/departments/men/men-young-man/

Between these three stores, we will always be repping the latest trends while not emptying our pockets. With Forever 21, and H&M representing the best deals and the most fashionable styles, we are guaranteed to look great. 

Then we also have Ross Dress For Less. Ross is one of my own most shopped at stores because it is constantly changing. Entering a Ross is always a new adventure and you will always find something new and at a great price. It does take a little bit more searching, but that is the fun part. 

Simple Tips to Dress for Success

A few years ago I had a roommate who would always dress very nicely to school. One day I asked him why and he responded with the simple phrase of, "dress for success." Every test and quiz that he took he would make sure to dress for success. With a 4.0 GPA, this roommate of mine is getting ready to apply to med school.

Here are a few tips for the best way to dress for success:

Confidence completes the outfit

No matter what we wear, with the right confidence, we can make that look good.

Do not overdress

Often times we see people that have just dressed up too much. With so many people attempting to be fashionable this is becoming a serious issue. Peacocking is used in the dating world to draw attention. It may lead to a one-night stand, but no one returns to a peacocker. We want to be fashionable but not overdone. 

Look the part of what you want

If you are interviewing for a job, then dress as the CEO of that job would dress. Make sure to dress as the best person in that field would dress. 

Future Hot Moms of America

We have a general idea of what a Future Hot Dad of America is like, but what characteristics does a Future Hot Mom of America have?

In a world where girls and women are being pushed to believe that they have to be a certain way, or be the way that the world wants them to be, we have many few people who are great role models. One of the finest role models for Future Hot Moms of America to have is Taylor Swift! 

A phenomenal blogger and also an example like Taylor is Jennee Moore. Jennee writes in her blog: Obtaining Swift-Like Attributes about those great characteristics that Taylor has. These characteristics have set a great example for all those Future Hot Moms of America out there!

A few of these characteristics that also Future Hot Dads of America should share are:

Taylor is fearless

"To me, Fearless is not the absense of fear. It's not being completely unafraid. To me, Fearless is having fears. Fearless is having doubts. Lots of them. To me, Fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death.”

Taylor is charitable

For more news on the Taylor Swift Education Center visit: Rolling Stones

Taylor is passionate

"Anytime someone tells me that I can't do something, I want to do it more."

I urge all of you Future Hot Moms out there to go and learn more about why Taylor Swift is a great example at becomeliketaylor.blogspot.com.